I have zero interest in getting married. For every good story there's 20 horrible ones

Hang in there Outlaw!

Thanks for the update Outlaw. I hope this new relationship works out for you!

Marriage is a marathon.

While trying to run with an arrow in a knee.

I would hope you wouldn't make the same mistake twice.

Wow, great to hear!

Where did you meet her?

Did you get to keep the house and the Harley?

Disagree about "the same mistakd twice". No two persons are alike.

nice to read the follow up Outlaw, wishing you all the best with the new misses

Thanks RS!

We were introduced through a mutual friend. I knew nothing about her. We texted for roughly 2 months and decided to meet-up. I walked in the room, and both our lives changed that very instant. We both "just knew"...

Happily I was able to keep the House and Harley and even added a Classic Mustang to the garage. I have since sold the Harley and rent the house out as the new girlfriends house is bigger. ;-)

We both are "gun shy" about marriage... but we both know we are perfect for each other. She wears a ring on her wedding finger and teases me that we need to make it official.

Great news! Thanks for the follow up.

I'm on one year now after my divorce, in the dating arena. I've met a girl and she's good to me. But yikes that first year is hard...

Outlaw,

Thanks for the update, and best wishes to you!

Good to hear Outlaw, happy to hear that you are enjoying your new found life.

After a bad separation in 93/94 and divorce in 2001 I met a nice young (ok relative to me!) lady in 2005 and 8 months ago we got married to each other, while we are different and come from very different backgrounds religion and countries we share the same outlook on life.

Like you and your girlfriend we were both hesitant about tying the knot again but said we would get married after 10 years, financially this was the right point to do it and it protects us both as we come under two different law systems Scotland/UK and Belgium.

My wife's children have taken me in and made me part of the family, I know I was very apprehensive about meeting them at first and from what had been said about how the eldest one was I was really not looking forward to it at all. He had bought a house as an investment and as a refuge to get his mother away from his father, it needed a bit of renovation that my future wife said she would do in place of payment of rent. I was helping remove the vinyl tiles from the kitchen floor and chiselling away the cement under them to reveal the old clay fired tiles when he came in, I just said Hi and carried on hammering away at the floor, he made no comment, but the next time we met he was friendly and we got on great.

When we got married the whole clan came over and the eldest lad gave his mum away.

I'm the one in the skirt...


The family

Wow, this thread was a bit of a blowout. I was like what..this is some freaky dejavu deal and then i looked at the dates Nice to hear Outlaw, my 14 odd year relationship+marriage, kids, house took a good year and a half to get over..and i was silly and rushed into a relationship after that a bit too early which ended up causing extra uneeded grief. Lifes fun huh The kids are my main deal though, everything else goes out the window.

Good luck bruv !

20 years?

Dating game is much different now than then.

These young women are (most of them) more manipulative, more sexually promiscuous (so many of them don't think twice about taking naked and semi naked selfies and sharing those photos with the world, no self respect).

They also don't know the meaning of commitment and discretion.

Whatever you and her do will end up on their social network pages.

I have been married 10 1/2 years and if you told me I have to start dating again tomorrow, I wouldn't even know where to begin or how to do it.

I would sell the house.

You don't want to stay in the place by yourself where you had good and bad memories.

The bad memories will eat you up if you let it.

Like CG2015, I would be totally lost where to start looking again.

My marriage was never perfect and we both agree that we married too young at 20. We're fine with never having dated other people (except the one date she had during our cooling off), but we should have waited at least until she finished college before marrying and settling down.

After the honeymoon phase we fought pretty badly throughout our 20s (never physically, except that one time I took her by the belt loops and moved her over like she was the vacuum cleaner blocking the entrance to my man cave - never do this), we chilled in our 30s but grew further apart, and didn't feel good in general. It could have easily ended then (and almost did once � wasn't infidelity though).

Our 40s (2008) started with a couple of health scares which woke us from a stupor, forced us to re-evaluate who we were and where we were going (did we really have a future together?) while starting to improve our physical health. Her mom's sickness and death also gave made us closer I think, I did my best to see her through it and to help with her mom where I could. She's now returning the favor (possibly closer to my parents than I am) although they're not sick. The hard times help you see the heart of the other person I think, makes you appreciate them more.

I think as you age you change (espically if you started off young) and you can grow apart, it's a matter of the new you falling back in love with the new her, and vice versa. That's what happened to me I think, you might not have even known I was married until 2009 but since then, I can't seem to shut up about it. I'm hoping our 50s will be even smoother sailing.

Oh, and congrats Outlaw on the new love and best of luck! I think it's nice waking up every morning with the same woman sleeping on your chest.

My apologies to the OP.

I just now noticed this thread was started almost 4 years ago.

It's ok CG. I've fallen for the same thing as well. Old threads get resurrected all the time on SimHQ.

Females have always been promiscuous. It's biological. There have been controls on them, so they would sneak around of course so they wouldn't be called sluts and things like this.

It's a neurotic male construct that females don't like sex, it's a very false idea. The feminist movement has also battled it out here- some feminists argue that women should have greater parity and expression in what they want, others are on the more bitter man hating spectrum and are trying to turn women away from it, in that regard they sound like some men who think promiscuous girls are bad or something (so that they don't explore their natural urges with males).

+1 Mechanus

Sometimes I think CG was born in the wrong century.

I've had "man talk" discussions with nephews and the younger generation, I think I grew up exactly when I was suppose to. Probably every generation feels this way though.

congrats bud