Posted By: FishTaco
A Question to other fathers - 09/30/20 05:28 PM
As many of you know, in recent months I have been stressed out and anxious about not being able to see my daughter in the Philippines. Tomorrow, I am going to try to set up a meeting with a local politician. I just wanted to get some other opinions, just to make sure that I am not over reacting to the situation re; my daughter.
Currently, my daughter is 11 years old. She has a half sister, and a half brother. The sister has bullied my daughter for a few years, but my daughter stands up to her. The main problem is coming from her brother, who is now (As I recall) about 21-25 years old. The boy is out and out homosexual (not that there is anything wrong with that) but for some years now, he has been dressing up and putting makeup on my daughter, effectively making her look older. The last time I was there, I directly asked him not to do this anymore, he laughed, and said yes. But it has continued, and I think has gone too far.
Recently, I was alerted by a friend over there (sister of one of my daughters teachers) that a Facebook page had been created under my daughters name. Sure enough, it is there, even though as I believe you have to be 13 to create a Facebook page. In her photos, she has been "done up"'; her hair has been colored, she has full makeup on, and even has colored contact lenses in her eyes. For me, this has been very distressing, because (I hate saying this) she looks seductive, but also VERY unhappy. Let's face facts; a lot of perverts go to the Philippines to have sex with young girls. I don't want this to happen to my daughter. There are tons of young, single mums out there, I don't want my daughter to become just another statistic. My concerns is that she could be taken advantage of by an older man. She gets my family height as well, so she already looks a little older than what she is anyway.
Attempts to contact her mother and discuss this have all been ignored.
I'm appealing to a local politician to try to help me to get an exemption to fly. I need to know that my daughter is safe. Emotionally and mentally, it is wrecking me. My question to all is this:
Am I over-reacting? Am I just of a generation that has not noticed change? Or would other fathers of an 11 year old daughter have similar concerns to me? Delicate subjects, but I would appreciate all opinions.
Thanks again,
Andrew.
Currently, my daughter is 11 years old. She has a half sister, and a half brother. The sister has bullied my daughter for a few years, but my daughter stands up to her. The main problem is coming from her brother, who is now (As I recall) about 21-25 years old. The boy is out and out homosexual (not that there is anything wrong with that) but for some years now, he has been dressing up and putting makeup on my daughter, effectively making her look older. The last time I was there, I directly asked him not to do this anymore, he laughed, and said yes. But it has continued, and I think has gone too far.
Recently, I was alerted by a friend over there (sister of one of my daughters teachers) that a Facebook page had been created under my daughters name. Sure enough, it is there, even though as I believe you have to be 13 to create a Facebook page. In her photos, she has been "done up"'; her hair has been colored, she has full makeup on, and even has colored contact lenses in her eyes. For me, this has been very distressing, because (I hate saying this) she looks seductive, but also VERY unhappy. Let's face facts; a lot of perverts go to the Philippines to have sex with young girls. I don't want this to happen to my daughter. There are tons of young, single mums out there, I don't want my daughter to become just another statistic. My concerns is that she could be taken advantage of by an older man. She gets my family height as well, so she already looks a little older than what she is anyway.
Attempts to contact her mother and discuss this have all been ignored.
I'm appealing to a local politician to try to help me to get an exemption to fly. I need to know that my daughter is safe. Emotionally and mentally, it is wrecking me. My question to all is this:
Am I over-reacting? Am I just of a generation that has not noticed change? Or would other fathers of an 11 year old daughter have similar concerns to me? Delicate subjects, but I would appreciate all opinions.
Thanks again,
Andrew.