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A parent should not have to bury their child

Posted By: No105_Archie

A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 01:34 AM

Friends: I just need to write this down for my own sanity. Some of you may remember that my son Philip has lead a hard life. He has been cursed with addictions and mental problems. Today we found him dead in his apartment. He was 29. We did the best we could and loved him with all our hearts. He had been clean for over a year and had started attending church and playing the drums in our worship band. He loved his little two year old nephew ( may grandson ) dearly. The little guy called him "unc" because he could not pronounce his name.

Last week a couple of shady characters , from his past, came to town and he fell in with them. He seems to have relapsed into drugs and overdosed.

He is with the Lord now and does not have to wrestle those demons any more. Pray for him and for his mom, sister and me.
Posted By: JimK

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 01:52 AM

Oh Lord, So sad to hear your news, I am often thinking the same way,but not so much addiction
being the cause. Pure stupidity will get him the same way.

So sorry for your loss. RIP.
Posted By: oldgrognard

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 01:53 AM

Words are insufficient at a time like this. I can't express my condolences enough.

You have my prayers Archie.
Posted By: RossUK

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 02:47 AM

I'm so sorry for you and your family. He is no longer suffering and in another place waiting to see you all again.

Once the shock has passed I hope you all manage to get the relevant grief counselling.
Posted By: Arthonon

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 03:03 AM

Archie, as OG said, no words I can type are sufficient, but you have my deepest sympathies and condolences.
Posted By: coasty

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 03:05 AM

Archie, that news makes me hurt, both for you and your family, but because of my son's alcohol addiction. He is doing well now, but that can change overnight. I don't mean to derail your thread, only want to let you know I understand.
Posted By: WOLF257

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 03:27 AM

My deepest sympathy's to you and your family Archie.

Jim
Posted By: JohnnyChemo

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 03:38 AM

I'm so sorry to hear this...you have my deepest condolences.
Posted By: Cold_Gambler

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 03:49 AM

My condolences to you and yours, Archie.
Posted By: CyBerkut

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 04:47 AM

That is such a terrible thing to have to deal with, Archie. My prayers are with your family.
Posted By: Airdrop01

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 04:52 AM

Archie, I will add your family and your son to my prayers tonight.

Psalm 34:18 may help. Also 1 Peter 5:7
Posted By: Dart

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 04:52 AM

My deepest condolences.
Posted By: Friday

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 07:44 AM

You and your family are in my thoughts Archie, stay strong.
Posted By: Nixer

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 09:14 AM

My sincerest condolences to you and your family Archie.

There... but for the grace of God, go I
Posted By: Jayhawk

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 09:37 AM

I am so sorry for your loss, Archie. My sincerest condolences to you and your family.
Posted By: Alicatt

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 09:53 AM

My deepest condolences.
You and your family are in our thoughts.

My brother in law has just had to go through this about a month ago, his son was also 29, the lad was my wife's godson and it has hit her really hard.
Posted By: the soupdragon

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 10:01 AM

Very sad news indeed. You and you family have my deepest sympathies.
Words are meaningless at a time like this, similar will just say god speed to your son Philip.

SD

Posted By: Sluggish Controls

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 10:24 AM

My sincerest condolences to you and your family.

Slug
Posted By: BD-123

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 10:26 AM

A horrible unimaginable business. I have words insufficient for such a loss.
Posted By: shan2

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 11:26 AM

I'm sorry for your loss, Archie.
Posted By: semmern

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 11:28 AM

So sorry to read this, Archie frown My sincere condolences!
Posted By: DaveP63

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 11:36 AM

Condolences Archie. That is a terrible thing indeed.
Posted By: F4UDash4

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 12:01 PM

No words are sufficient at a time like this, but I am so terribly sorry for your lose. May God bless you and keep you and your family.
Posted By: EAF331 MadDog

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 12:19 PM

My deepest condolences to you and your family frown
Posted By: marko1231123

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 12:28 PM

God bless you and your family.
Posted By: Chef

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 12:55 PM

I'm so sorry to hear this. Losing a child has to be the hardest thing a parent ever has to go thru.
Posted By: Stratos

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 01:32 PM

Words are useless right now, will have iyou and you family in our toughts.
Posted By: vocatx

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 01:36 PM

Really sorry to hear about your son.

When I was married to my ex-wife my 18 year old step-son got killed in a car accident. I know how it hurts.

My best to you and your family.
Posted By: Bohemond

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 03:39 PM

Deepest condolences, Archie.
Posted By: McGonigle

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 03:51 PM

So sorry for your loss. My deepest condolences. RIP Philip.
Posted By: Bib4Tuna

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 04:22 PM


My sincerest condolences.
Posted By: RSColonel_131st

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 04:55 PM

Very sorry to hear that, my best thoughts to you Archie and I wish strength for all of you.
Posted By: letterboy1

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 05:25 PM

May you and all of Philip's loved ones find peace.
Posted By: Moses

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 07:11 PM

praying for strength and peace during this time
Posted By: Paradaz

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 07:44 PM

So sorry to hear this. Stay strong.
Posted By: Eugene

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 08:25 PM

Archie, I know that no words can change this, but speaking from my own experience the sincere expressions here and elsewhere from people who simply say in some way "I care, I'm sorry, I know this hurts" really did help. I hope that is true for you and your family. Speaking as a father who held his only daughter while she was dying, waiting for a heart transplant that never came, I can begin to understand the pain you must be feeling. But to lose your son as you did is unimaginable. And bearing all the memories, hopes and fears for him over all those years must feel worse than Atlas holding the earth on his shoulders. My heart goes out to you.

Eugene
Posted By: piper

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 08:55 PM

As a father of six, I can't imagine what you must be going through. My sincerest condolences, and prayers
for you and your family.
Posted By: adlabs6

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/22/16 09:46 PM

I am so sorry to read this Archie. I will have your family in my prayers.
Posted By: Crane Hunter

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/23/16 07:06 AM

Condolences, do not blame yourself.
Posted By: RedToo

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/23/16 11:16 AM

My Deepest Condolences. Words are not enough.
Posted By: - Ice

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/23/16 11:29 AM

My condolences to you and your family. We all know he's in a better place now. I will pray for him and for strength to those he left behind.
Posted By: kaa

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/23/16 01:48 PM

Very sorry that you have to go through what parents fear the most...My thoughts are with you...
Posted By: Fittop

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/23/16 03:13 PM

My sincere condolences, Archie.
Posted By: Simbo_Sim123

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/23/16 03:24 PM

Sincere condolences Sir.
Posted By: VF9_Longbow

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/23/16 04:55 PM

Damn, I am really sorry to hear that man.

Pray pray and pray, I guess that's one way you can try to find comfort in this difficult time. Can't imagine what you must be going through but I hope you manage to come through this strong and steady.

Take care of yourself and family.
Posted By: BlueHeron

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/23/16 05:30 PM

Archie, my wife and I send our deepest sympathies to your family. I can't imagine a darker time than this, but try to remain strong for yourself and those who love you. Peace.
Posted By: Vertigo1

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/23/16 07:09 PM

my condolences Archie.
Posted By: Paul Rix

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/24/16 12:13 AM

So very sorry for your loss Archie. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Posted By: Falstar

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/24/16 12:18 AM

So sorry to hear. Praying for your family right now.
Posted By: Tarnsman

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/24/16 03:51 AM

I am very sorry to read of your loss.
My deepest condolences to you and your family.
Posted By: Domestos

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/24/16 09:51 AM

Deepest condolences Archie. I can't think of much worse to happen than the loss of a child.
Posted By: PanzerMeyer

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/24/16 11:08 AM

Wow, this is really terrible news Archie. My deepest condolences my friend. frown
Posted By: mailman

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/24/16 11:23 AM

My thoughts are with you and your family Archie.

Regards

Mailman
Posted By: Anonymous

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/26/16 09:22 AM

My deepest condolences.
Posted By: No105_Archie

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/26/16 02:58 PM

His funeral is tomorrow. These last two years have been the best he has had since he was about 16. He had been clean for a year and went from listening to Gangsta Rap to Country and Christian music. He played the drums in our church worship band and bowled in the church league. Last week some guys from his past showed up and he had a relapse. He's in the arms of God now.

These are his three favourite songs and will be played at his funeral:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JnXv2gAfPpE

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XtwIT8JjddM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wf665in2U7o


The church worship band will be joined by the drummer and bass player from my old band.

It's been a rough week but we take comfort in knowing that his battles are over and he's home now

No power of hell, no scheme of man
Can ever pluck me from His hand
Till He returns or calls me home
Here in the power of Christ I stand
Posted By: WangoTango

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/26/16 03:23 PM

As a father, all I can say it ...too sad for words.
Posted By: wheelsup_cavu

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/26/16 05:57 PM

Complete loss for words. My condolences for your devastating loss Archie.


Wheels
Posted By: kentcol

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/26/16 06:04 PM

Sorry for your loss. I lost my 19 yr old daughter to a car accident on July 28. She was my baby. I know how it is and I'm still in a deep fog. God bless.
Posted By: MarkG

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/26/16 06:36 PM

This is a heartbreaking thread. My condolences to you No105_Archie, and to the rest of you going through a sad period in your life.
Posted By: WalterNowi

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/27/16 01:08 AM

Archie,

My deepest condolences. sigh
Posted By: bones

Re: A parent should not have to bury their child - 10/31/16 01:38 PM

Deepest condolences, so sorry for your loss.

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