#4621095 - 02/19/23 05:07 PM
Re: I don't know what to do.
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Your initial post isn’t very clear. Didn’t sound good at all.
So what is happening now ?
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#4621102 - 02/19/23 07:26 PM
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What 259 views. 7 responses. What has happened to this site? Sad. You'll always have lurkers-only (assuming they get counted in the views), and maybe people like me who try to focus on one part of the board when they have an active thread going for time constraints, so not always paying attention to what's happening in places like CH or PWEC. But in this case, I feel for NFB and it doesn't sound good. But what to say, until we get more info?
The rusty wire that holds the cork that keeps the anger in Gives way and suddenly it’s day again The sun is in the east Even though the day is done Two suns in the sunset, hmph Could be the human race is run
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#4621108 - 02/19/23 08:06 PM
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What 259 views. 7 responses. What has happened to this site? Sad. You'll always have lurkers-only (assuming they get counted in the views), and maybe people like me who try to focus on one part of the board when they have an active thread going for time constraints, so not always paying attention to what's happening in places like CH or PWEC. But in this case, I feel for NFB and it doesn't sound good. But what to say, until we get more info? I am also thinking of a member who had their 102 yr old Mother die recently. The lack of response from serial posters was telling.
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#4621119 - 02/19/23 10:18 PM
Re: I don't know what to do.
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My deepest condolences. There are no words to make it easier. The loss of a father is a terrible thing for a son to endure.
Live your life in a manner that he would be proud of.
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Someday your life will flash in front of your eyes. Make sure it is worth watching.
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#4621120 - 02/19/23 10:24 PM
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Sorry to hear that, your family is in my prayers.
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#4621121 - 02/19/23 10:34 PM
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I'm very sorry to hear about the loss of your father NFB. Stay strong for your mother, she will surely need your support over the coming weeks.
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#4621123 - 02/19/23 10:36 PM
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Sorry, NFB. All you can do is to be strong for your family [^ EDIT: ninja'd...same thoughts at same time. Was thinking of mother and sisters].
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#4621133 - 02/19/23 11:52 PM
Re: I don't know what to do.
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Sorry to hear this NFB, keeping your family in my thoughts and prayers.
Throughout history, poverty is the normal condition of man. Advances which permit this norm to be exceeded — here and there, now and then — are the work of an extremely small minority, frequently despised, often condemned, and almost always opposed by all right-thinking people. Whenever this tiny minority is kept from creating, or (as sometimes happens) is driven out of a society, the people then slip back into abject poverty. This is known as "bad luck.” -Robert Heinlein
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#4621136 - 02/20/23 12:16 AM
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Very sorry to hear this, NFB. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.
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#4621142 - 02/20/23 02:18 AM
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Yes. Our Dad has died. Only 70 years young. Thank you for your caring words. You & your family have my condolences, my own father passed when he was 69 & I was 29. It's OK to grieve & in fact, it is probably better if you do. As others have said be prepared to support the rest of your family & especially your mother.
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#4621166 - 02/20/23 09:58 AM
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Very sorry to hear this NFB. OG said it well. My dad died at 65 and my wife's father in his fifties. There are no easy words and there is no easy path. Stay strong for your family and for yourself.
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#4621167 - 02/20/23 10:27 AM
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That was really sad news NFB. My deepest condolences.
“We are still in the age of legends. You and I will not enter the promised land. We who have begun always perish before Jericho falls.”
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#4621175 - 02/20/23 12:40 PM
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I still have both my parents, they are 84 and 85 and are no longer married to each other. Mom lives in Kentucky with my Sister and her Husband and Dad lives south of me in Sarasota. I know one day I'll get that call and I'm not ready for it. We aren't promised tomorrow, make the most of your time on earth. NFB you have my sincerest condolences.
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#4621182 - 02/20/23 03:44 PM
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My condolences NFB. It will be hard for awhile, not that it will be ever easy. After the passing of my Mom last Sept. I am #3 in line of succession on her side of the family and am #1 on Dad's side of the family.
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#4621198 - 02/20/23 09:17 PM
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So sorry, NFB.
My father died in 2008. He suddenly collapsed one night while we were at our summer cabin, and I spent half an hour doing CPR while waiting for the helicopter to arrive. Nothing to be done, unfortunately.
I miss him every day. You learn to live with it. It’s hard to see right now, but you do.
In all my years I've never seen the like. It has to be more than a hundred sea miles and he brings us up on his tail. That's seamanship, Mr. Pullings. My God, that's seamanship!
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#4621199 - 02/20/23 09:43 PM
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I lost my Dad also in 2008, when he was 64. He was supposed to come back to town from the beach with my Mom the next day, and after that visit his heart doctor for a checkup that he knew and dreaded would reveal he had to have heart surgery, again. Alas, that night he kissed my mom and tucked her into bed, turning her light off, and went back to his study to read or watch TV for a while. The next morning she found him, as if he were asleep in his recliner. That was the worst day I can remember.
The afternoon before, though, the last time we spoke, I shared with him a joke, and I remember his infectious laughter. I am thankful to God for that moment.
So sorry for your loss, NFB. Remain strong and vigilant. From all you have said of him on these forums, I can tell you admired him greatly, and he the same of you. Remember those good times, for they will help you face the steep road ahead of you, as you learn to wear his shoes.
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#4621418 - 02/24/23 03:36 PM
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Just got the internet back after the winter storm here in Idaho. So sorry to read this NFB! How are you and the family holding up?
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#4621616 - 02/27/23 11:52 PM
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How are you doing NoFlyBoy ?
Good people sleep peaceably in their beds at night only because rough men stand ready to do violence on their behalf.
Someday your life will flash in front of your eyes. Make sure it is worth watching.
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#4621749 - 03/01/23 09:13 AM
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Thank you for all your kind words. The funeral is this Saturday. Doctors examined Dad's body and will have a report soon on his passing. How are you doing NoFlyBoy ? How are you holding up NFB ? One day at a time. I haven't slept and ate much last or go to school and work.
So this is life? We born, grow up, get jobs, get families, do the same thing every day: wake up to work, family, go to sleep, wake up, do it again, and one day we are done. Just a body with no life to be put under ground.
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#4621754 - 03/01/23 10:07 AM
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Sorry to hear about your loss.
It's kinda double-edged. On the one side we somehow hope for a peaceful sudden death, go to bed and just don't wake up the next day; no prolonged suffering, no pains, no weeks/months/years of caretaking troubles, hospitalization, ...
But as with your dad and your family now, that also amplifies the shock for the relatives when it happens, leaving them totally unprepared, no thanks, sharing memories, no farewell, ...
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#4621788 - 03/01/23 05:09 PM
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The Dash Poem - By Linda Ellis
I read of a man who stood to speak At the funeral of a friend He referred to the dates on the tombstone From the beginning...to the end
He noted that first came the date of birth And spoke the following date with tears, But he said what mattered most of all Was the dash between those years
For that dash represents all the time That they spent alive on earth. And now only those who loved them Know what that little line is worth
For it matters not, how much we own, The cars...the house...the cash. What matters is how we live and love And how we spend our dash.
So, think about this long and hard. Are there things you'd like to change? For you never know how much time is left That can still be rearranged.
If we could just slow down enough To consider what's true and real And always try to understand The way other people feel.
And be less quick to anger And show appreciation more And love the people in our lives Like we've never loved before.
If we treat each other with respect And more often wear a smile, Remembering this special dash Might only last a little while
So, when your eulogy is being read With your life's actions to rehash... Would you be proud of the things they say About how you spent YOUR dash?
"In the vast library of socialist books, there’s not a single volume on how to create wealth, only how to take and “redistribute” it.” - David Horowitz
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#4621809 - 03/01/23 08:13 PM
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The second line of my sig.
Good people sleep peaceably in their beds at night only because rough men stand ready to do violence on their behalf.
Someday your life will flash in front of your eyes. Make sure it is worth watching.
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#4623403 - 03/23/23 06:14 PM
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#4629070 - 06/18/23 03:09 AM
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Tomorrow is Father's Day. I miss my Dad. The first one with out my Dad hit me like a Mac truck. It totally caught me off guard. I did not think of it leading up to that day. 8 months of not crying needed release. I just did not know it. You have my sympathy NFB.
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#4629071 - 06/18/23 03:38 AM
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My stepdad (78) went in for cardiac testing this past Tuesday (my mom’s 84th birthday) and they found he had a widow maker with 90% blockage. The next day he had a double bypass, got moved out of the ICU yesterday, I’ll be calling his room tomorrow because I came close to losing him. It’s very comforting knowing he had it done in one of the highest-rated cardiac centers in the nation (Maine Medical Center), how Maine ended up with that I don’t know but I’m glad we did.
Phil
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#4629083 - 06/18/23 12:21 PM
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I lost my Dad back in 2020. Yesterday, his picture popped up randomly on one of those "On This Day" reminder things and really knocked me back for a bit. I feel you NFB, I miss my Dad too.
Throughout history, poverty is the normal condition of man. Advances which permit this norm to be exceeded — here and there, now and then — are the work of an extremely small minority, frequently despised, often condemned, and almost always opposed by all right-thinking people. Whenever this tiny minority is kept from creating, or (as sometimes happens) is driven out of a society, the people then slip back into abject poverty. This is known as "bad luck.” -Robert Heinlein
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#4629084 - 06/18/23 12:53 PM
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My father has been gone since 2002. Today would have been his and my mothers (she's gone since 2014) 74th wedding anniversary. And my 61st birthday. A bit melancholy all away around.
The missing them never goes away but it does get easier to live with.
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#4629086 - 06/18/23 01:31 PM
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My stepdad (78) went in for cardiac testing this past Tuesday (my mom’s 84th birthday) and they found he had a widow maker with 90% blockage. The next day he had a double bypass, got moved out of the ICU yesterday, I’ll be calling his room tomorrow because I came close to losing him. It’s very comforting knowing he had it done in one of the highest-rated cardiac centers in the nation (Maine Medical Center), how Maine ended up with that I don’t know but I’m glad we did. Best wishes for your stepdad NH2112. Hoping for a day of happy memories for those who have lost their Fathers. F4UDash4 and JohnnyChemo. It is hard to believe my Dad has been gone 28 years.
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#4629088 - 06/18/23 01:44 PM
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My father has been gone since 2002. Today would have been his and my mothers (she's gone since 2014) 74th wedding anniversary. And my 61st birthday. A bit melancholy all away around.
The missing them never goes away but it does get easier to live with. True. I still miss may parents. I have so many questions I had wished I`d aked my father about WW2. He didn`t say anything. I guess that is normal. @ F4UDash4, Happy 61st . Hope you have a good one.
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#4629101 - 06/18/23 08:51 PM
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My stepdad (78) went in for cardiac testing this past Tuesday (my mom’s 84th birthday) and they found he had a widow maker with 90% blockage. The next day he had a double bypass, got moved out of the ICU yesterday, I’ll be calling his room tomorrow because I came close to losing him. It’s very comforting knowing he had it done in one of the highest-rated cardiac centers in the nation (Maine Medical Center), how Maine ended up with that I don’t know but I’m glad we did. Best wishes for your stepdad NH2112. Hoping for a day of happy memories for those who have lost their Fathers. F4UDash4 and JohnnyChemo. It is hard to believe my Dad has been gone 28 years. Thank you WangoTango, much appreciated.
Throughout history, poverty is the normal condition of man. Advances which permit this norm to be exceeded — here and there, now and then — are the work of an extremely small minority, frequently despised, often condemned, and almost always opposed by all right-thinking people. Whenever this tiny minority is kept from creating, or (as sometimes happens) is driven out of a society, the people then slip back into abject poverty. This is known as "bad luck.” -Robert Heinlein
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#4642607 - 02/16/24 02:56 AM
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My condolences. My father has been gone for almost 22 years. I still miss him but it doesn't hurt as much any more, most of the time. I am however now starting to have a little difficulty with the prospect of what would have been his 100th birthday fast approaching.
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#4642720 - 02/18/24 03:18 AM
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With deference and understanding towards NFB My Father is 86, my Mom and Dad have been Divorced many years and my Mom is widowed from her second Husband and my Dad is still with his second and both are of advanced age. Dad hardly flies his R/C stuff instead he flies MSFS and His control set up is so impossible to manage I cant sit and fly it at all, he tells me stuff I can't reproduce, but he wants to use it that way. Mom lives with my sister in Kentucky and sadly I may never see her again, I just cant get there and she tells me stuff that is reality but hard to understand about how Mom is now. One day they may both be gone. That's a very real and eminent possibility, And I don't know what I'm going to do, what I'll be expected or be needed to do, Life will kick you awake when you are least expecting, unprepared for or just plain asleep, It has a very loud alarm.
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#4642721 - 02/18/24 03:44 AM
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I've very sorry for your loss, and so sad to read how unexpectedly it happened. My deepest condolences.
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