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#4339227 - 02/21/17 01:58 PM Re: Considering getting married in NYC. Some advice, please. [Re: semmern]  
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Texas? I thought he meant Montana. Where she will cook rabbits, and he can travel between states with no papers.

I was 25 when I got married, we'd already been together 3 years.

It's not really the age that matters so much, it's more a matter of knowing them. Sorry, you just can't really know someone in under a year, and IMO that's the reason so many marriages fail. If it's been 6 months you're both still on "best behavior mode" and not showing the other all your warts and flaws.

If you walk into a marriage blind, thinking it will all work out, you are WRONG.

Marriage codifies what already exists between you, it doesn't create some magic cement to bind you. I watched my sister do that, thinking that getting married would solve their troubles and make life worry-free for them. Surprise, surprise, things got worse. Divorced in like 2 years.


That said, I got married in a Hilton in Fort Lauderdale. Nothing particularly special, really, as we already lived there. smile Took my first cruise for the honeymoon, though, so that was special.



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#4339251 - 02/21/17 02:53 PM Re: Considering getting married in NYC. Some advice, please. [Re: semmern]  
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To answer the original question, New York can be gorgeous weather-wise in September, but there's still the chance of a streak of brutal hot weather to trudge through. The edge of the summer heat, though, is gone by mid-September.

I actually prefer October, as by then it's decidedly cooler, but not as rainy as November can be.

I go married in NY in October. Perfect Day, Great Wedding..... the marriage... not so much! biggrin

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#4339344 - 02/21/17 09:46 PM Re: Considering getting married in NYC. Some advice, please. [Re: semmern]  
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Well as an on/off wedding photographer, I've seen a few more weddings from the outside than the average. And I would say...

1. You don't just get married for yourself. It's two families joining. Celebrate that or look selfish.
2. If you aren't a princess don't get married in a castle. Life lesson there. Marriage isn't fantasy, it's as real as it gets.
3. Be true to yourselves. This may override point #1 and #2

Here endeth the lesson.

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#4339357 - 02/21/17 11:17 PM Re: Considering getting married in NYC. Some advice, please. [Re: semmern]  
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Congrats, semmern! thumbsup

Nice to hear some good news. Your families are coming to America for the wedding?

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You may find this link useful...

http://nymag.com/weddings/listings/locations/index5.html

(A wedding at the Museum of Natural History would be EPIC! You must get your photo taken under the famous allosaurus vs brontosaurs fossils....)

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#4339397 - 02/22/17 03:25 AM Re: Considering getting married in NYC. Some advice, please. [Re: Dart]  
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Oh, I dunno, NYC can be a fun little romp for a few days. NYC can be expensive, but not prohibitively so if you're mindful. And it's a pretty friendly city - if you're lost, ask for directions from just about anyone that looks local.



What does a "local" look like? New York is one of the most racially, ethnically, religiously diverse cities in the world. Anyone in New York could be "local" except taxi drivers. They are all transplants from other countries.


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#4339398 - 02/22/17 03:35 AM Re: Considering getting married in NYC. Some advice, please. [Re: Plainsman]  
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Originally Posted By: Plainsman
Originally Posted By: Dart
Oh, I dunno, NYC can be a fun little romp for a few days. NYC can be expensive, but not prohibitively so if you're mindful. And it's a pretty friendly city - if you're lost, ask for directions from just about anyone that looks local.



What does a "local" look like? New York is one of the most racially, ethnically, religiously diverse cities in the world. Anyone in New York could be "local" except taxi drivers. They are all transplants from other countries.


Someone who "looks" local is one who looks like they know where they're going and what they're doing, IE not a tourist. A cop for instance would "look" local as would a taxi driver or a doorman or store owner etc. No one made it about race or ethnicity but you.


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#4339409 - 02/22/17 05:11 AM Re: Considering getting married in NYC. Some advice, please. [Re: PanzerMeyer]  
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I married a large country girl to keep me warm on cold winter nights
Aren't they all large in Texas? biggrin


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#4339412 - 02/22/17 05:52 AM Re: Considering getting married in NYC. Some advice, please. [Re: semmern]  
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September 2017? Are there venues still available that are in your price range and esthetic? Many places book weddings 18 months to sometimes 2 years in advance.

As far as weather? Early September should still be warm with temps in the high 60s to even 80 degrees F. Later September may have storms and obviously cooler temps. It's too early to enjoy the fall leaves though. Weather shouldn't be a problem. Storms can happen anywhere but generally NYC will still be pleasant through September.

#4339437 - 02/22/17 11:48 AM Re: Considering getting married in NYC. Some advice, please. [Re: semmern]  
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Sounds good,

There will only be eight of us, so we dont't need a big venue, just a small ceremony and a restaurant for the dinner afterwards. Then the families will fly home, and we will probably stay in the US for our honeymoon.


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#4339600 - 02/23/17 12:42 AM Re: Considering getting married in NYC. Some advice, please. [Re: Dart]  
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Originally Posted by Dart

NYC can be expensive, but not prohibitively so if you're mindful. And it's a pretty friendly city - if you're lost, ask for directions from just about anyone that looks local. If you want reflexively rude, cross over to Newark.


NYC'ers friendly?? dizzy Both NYC'ers and Jerseyites are reflexively rude IMO.


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#4339699 - 02/23/17 11:50 AM Re: Considering getting married in NYC. Some advice, please. [Re: semmern]  
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IMHO, they are not rude. They are just very direct and aren't afraid to speak their mind. smile


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#4339725 - 02/23/17 01:44 PM Re: Considering getting married in NYC. Some advice, please. [Re: semmern]  
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Direct all of the time but rude most of the time.
Think Jersey is worse than NY


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#4340373 - 02/26/17 02:14 AM Re: Considering getting married in NYC. Some advice, please. [Re: semmern]  
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Congrats, Semmern. thumbsup

Since you got other unsolicited marital advice, here's mine...

Never, ever stop dating her.

Good luck.



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#4342206 - 03/05/17 06:31 PM Re: Considering getting married in NYC. Some advice, please. [Re: MarkG]  
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Originally Posted by MarkG
Congrats, Semmern. thumbsup

Since you got other unsolicited marital advice, here's mine...

Never, ever stop dating her.

Good luck.


That is a good one, and it has been my plan for quite some time smile


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