#4469439 - 04/07/19 11:06 PM
Re: Woman Advice Please
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My bad experience was with a women who had a Master's Degree in Psychology ( she even went on to get a Doctorate). She was very unstable. Psychologists have proven that those working in the psychology field are vastly more likely to have psychological issues, probably because their condition draws them to the field. That's not to say that there are no sane people to be found in that field, its just that the rate of people with conditions is substantially higher than the population's average.
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#4469440 - 04/07/19 11:07 PM
Re: Woman Advice Please
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If you really want out of the relationship, then stop relating to her. You don't have to be nasty or mean about it, but you owe it to yourself to be firm and final. Refrain from giving her any openings. Do not do, or say anything that she could interpret as still having a chance. Exactly. Most "relationship problems" of this kind (and that includes stuff like children not disconnecting appropriatly from their parents, even if they are already 30+ with a family of their own - so not just romantic relationships) happen because *both* sides are somehow still in touch with the other, on some emotional level they might not even be aware about. So, FishTaco, check yourself and your history with her, and really consider if you truly think that "seeing you in person is going to make it sink in for her" or if there is some other reason why you can't just drop her like a poisoned potato.
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#4469451 - 04/08/19 12:39 AM
Re: Woman Advice Please
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My bad experience was with a women who had a Master's Degree in Psychology ( she even went on to get a Doctorate). She was very unstable. Psychologists have proven that those working in the psychology field are vastly more likely to have psychological issues, probably because their condition draws them to the field. That's not to say that there are no sane people to be found in that field, its just that the rate of people with conditions is substantially higher than the population's average. +One Billion! (did I win?)
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#4469452 - 04/08/19 01:01 AM
Re: Woman Advice Please
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So, my question is, should I play hardball with this woman, or go at it more gently? She threatened suicide (unfair I know) and also lost the best part of 35 pounds until I started to speak to her again. Seems she just don't get it. I think she is bordering on obsessed. This whole thing has also driven me to go on meds for hypertension, which I never had before. I'm somewhat upset about this now. (Obviously).
the best advise I can give you, is to receive her, talk to her and try to be as supportive as you can, she is not taking it easy and you should try as best as you can to get over it and recover her balance. you should also have someone from your family with you when you meet her. If you don't mind, I need to ask a rather blunt question.
Are you sure her motivation for being interested in you from the beginning was genuine? By that I mean she wasn't just trying to find a Westerner so she could live the good life? a callous, bigoted and stupid thing to say, you should be ashamed. That was uncalled for. You took a reasonable point and made it into something it wasn’t.she can apply for a visa in Australia and work there, I am sure she is not having a crisis like that because she need a visa.
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#4469457 - 04/08/19 01:26 AM
Re: Woman Advice Please
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a callous, bigoted and stupid thing to say, you should be ashamed. Seriously???...Seriously???? Oh, I guess you are from the generation who quake in fear from words they don't want to hear! Well, keep on quakin/quackin/cluckin. You may want to stake out a spot on your spread; maybe a soundproof closet, a little corner with a blankie, or something. MY personal bet is that gender/bending/fear mongering politics might just get a little un-PC, especially here in the USA.
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#4469479 - 04/08/19 10:05 AM
Re: Woman Advice Please
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LOL @ Crane Hunter
C'mon guys, let's keep this thing nice and friendly. Well, I have actually managed to knock together a solution.
I have spoken to my current lady (who is VERY understanding) and she doesn't mind my ex coming here so I can let her down easy from this. You have to understand, my ex only dated one guy before me, and he was a prick to her. She feels that she will never find another good man.
I told her today about the new GF, she said she hopes this woman realizes how lucky she is.
Me, I never want to upset anybody. I know it's probably weak of me, but I hate to upset people, that's just who I am.
Anyway, my ex is an attractive woman who owns a restaurant in Bali, so personally I don't think it'll be too long before she finds a decent Western guy, and forgets all about me. :-)
Kindest regards,
AJ
"If you know the enemy and know yourself, your victory will not stand in doubt; if you know Heaven and know Earth, you may make your victory complete." - The Art of War - Sun Tzu
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#4469483 - 04/08/19 11:05 AM
Re: Woman Advice Please
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I guess I must have "triggered" Tom! It's ok. Knowing his past political posting history on this site it doesn't surprise me. and yes, I am what they call a Social Democrat, proudly so, Mr. "Panzermayer": https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kurt_MeyerKurt Meyer (23 December 1910 – 23 December 1961) was an SS commander and war criminal of Nazi Germany. In World War II, he served in the Waffen-SS. maybe it is time for you to change your nickname.
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#4469485 - 04/08/19 11:16 AM
Re: Woman Advice Please
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I guess I must have "triggered" Tom! It's ok. Knowing his past political posting history on this site it doesn't surprise me. and yes, I am what they call a Social Democrat, proudly so, Mr. "Panzermayer": https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kurt_MeyerKurt Meyer (23 December 1910 – 23 December 1961) was an SS commander and war criminal of Nazi Germany. In World War II, he served in the Waffen-SS. maybe it is time for you to change your nickname. There was a member here with the name “joe Stalin”. You actually think he was a Communist? Anyway, nice deflection attempt. If you want to post political topics we have the PWEC so keep your climate change junk out of community hall.
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#4469487 - 04/08/19 11:30 AM
Re: Woman Advice Please
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Ok that’s enough. All of you. And Tom_Weiss, you caused this.
Next ugly post gets a suspension.
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#4469490 - 04/08/19 11:58 AM
Re: Woman Advice Please
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Wow that went south in a hurry Geez
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#4469525 - 04/08/19 06:24 PM
Re: Woman Advice Please
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#4469535 - 04/08/19 08:44 PM
Re: Woman Advice Please
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Dam, What happened? Good luck Taco. Tom_W, sorry but I am now a former supporter. Not good Sir. S!Blade<><
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#4469541 - 04/08/19 10:00 PM
Re: Woman Advice Please
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Me, I'm just upset that it's the year 2019 and yet the Cherry 2000 isn't available yet, nor flying cars, WTF? We can't even get the 1980's model of Melanie Griffith. The current model of her just isn't the same as it was back then.
The opinions of this poster are largely based on facts and portray a possible version of the actual events. More dumb stuff at http://www.darts-page.comFrom Laser: "The forum is the place where combat (real time) flight simulator fans come to play turn based strategy combat."
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