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#4469430 - 04/07/19 10:14 PM Re: Woman Advice Please [Re: FishTaco]  
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My bad experience was with a women who had a Master's Degree in Psychology ( she even went on to get a Doctorate). She was very unstable. Later in life she had admitted that she herself had been diagnosed with several "issues". I always thought she suffered from "spoiled little rich girl" syndrome. When you are young, there is a certain amount of "crazy" that you can put up with. Once you get into your thirties, that number goes down to zero.

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#4469439 - 04/07/19 11:06 PM Re: Woman Advice Please [Re: LB4LB]  
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Originally Posted by LB4LB
My bad experience was with a women who had a Master's Degree in Psychology ( she even went on to get a Doctorate). She was very unstable.

Psychologists have proven that those working in the psychology field are vastly more likely to have psychological issues, probably because their condition draws them to the field. That's not to say that there are no sane people to be found in that field, its just that the rate of people with conditions is substantially higher than the population's average.

#4469440 - 04/07/19 11:07 PM Re: Woman Advice Please [Re: CyBerkut]  
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Originally Posted by CyBerkut
If you really want out of the relationship, then stop relating to her. You don't have to be nasty or mean about it, but you owe it to yourself to be firm and final. Refrain from giving her any openings. Do not do, or say anything that she could interpret as still having a chance.


Exactly. Most "relationship problems" of this kind (and that includes stuff like children not disconnecting appropriatly from their parents, even if they are already 30+ with a family of their own - so not just romantic relationships) happen because *both* sides are somehow still in touch with the other, on some emotional level they might not even be aware about.

So, FishTaco, check yourself and your history with her, and really consider if you truly think that "seeing you in person is going to make it sink in for her" or if there is some other reason why you can't just drop her like a poisoned potato.

#4469451 - 04/08/19 12:39 AM Re: Woman Advice Please [Re: Ssnake]  
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Originally Posted by Ssnake
Originally Posted by LB4LB
My bad experience was with a women who had a Master's Degree in Psychology ( she even went on to get a Doctorate). She was very unstable.

Psychologists have proven that those working in the psychology field are vastly more likely to have psychological issues, probably because their condition draws them to the field. That's not to say that there are no sane people to be found in that field, its just that the rate of people with conditions is substantially higher than the population's average.


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#4469452 - 04/08/19 01:01 AM Re: Woman Advice Please [Re: PanzerMeyer]  
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Originally Posted by FishTaco


So, my question is, should I play hardball with this woman, or go at it more gently? She threatened suicide (unfair I know) and also lost the best part of 35 pounds until I started to speak to her again. Seems she just don't get it. I think she is bordering on obsessed. This whole thing has also driven me to go on meds for hypertension, which I never had before. I'm somewhat upset about this now. (Obviously).



the best advise I can give you, is to receive her, talk to her and try to be as supportive as you can, she is not taking it easy and you should try as best as you can to get over it and recover her balance.

you should also have someone from your family with you when you meet her.

Originally Posted by PanzerMeyer
If you don't mind, I need to ask a rather blunt question.

Are you sure her motivation for being interested in you from the beginning was genuine? By that I mean she wasn't just trying to find a Westerner so she could live the good life?


a callous, bigoted and stupid thing to say, you should be ashamed. That was uncalled for. You took a reasonable point and made it into something it wasn’t.

she can apply for a visa in Australia and work there, I am sure she is not having a crisis like that because she need a visa.

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#4469457 - 04/08/19 01:26 AM Re: Woman Advice Please [Re: FishTaco]  
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a callous, bigoted and stupid thing to say, you should be ashamed.

Seriously???...Seriously????

Oh, I guess you are from the generation who quake in fear from words they don't want to hear! behindcouch

Well, keep on quakin/quackin/cluckin. You may want to stake out a spot on your spread; maybe a soundproof closet, a little corner with a blankie, or something.

MY personal bet is that gender/bending/fear mongering politics might just get a little un-PC, especially here in the USA.


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#4469460 - 04/08/19 01:52 AM Re: Woman Advice Please [Re: FishTaco]  
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Me, I'm just upset that it's the year 2019 and yet the Cherry 2000 isn't available yet, nor flying cars, WTF?

#4469479 - 04/08/19 10:05 AM Re: Woman Advice Please [Re: FishTaco]  
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LOL @ Crane Hunter

C'mon guys, let's keep this thing nice and friendly. Well, I have actually managed to knock together a solution.

I have spoken to my current lady (who is VERY understanding) and she doesn't mind my ex coming here so I can let her down easy from this. You have to understand, my ex only dated one guy before me, and he was a prick to her. She feels that she will never find another good man.

I told her today about the new GF, she said she hopes this woman realizes how lucky she is.

Me, I never want to upset anybody. I know it's probably weak of me, but I hate to upset people, that's just who I am.

Anyway, my ex is an attractive woman who owns a restaurant in Bali, so personally I don't think it'll be too long before she finds a decent Western guy, and forgets all about me. :-)


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#4469480 - 04/08/19 10:31 AM Re: Woman Advice Please [Re: FishTaco]  
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I guess I must have "triggered" Tom! It's ok. Knowing his past political posting history on this site it doesn't surprise me.


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#4469483 - 04/08/19 11:05 AM Re: Woman Advice Please [Re: PanzerMeyer]  
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Originally Posted by PanzerMeyer
I guess I must have "triggered" Tom! It's ok. Knowing his past political posting history on this site it doesn't surprise me.


and yes, I am what they call a Social Democrat, proudly so, Mr. "Panzermayer":


https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kurt_Meyer

Kurt Meyer (23 December 1910 – 23 December 1961) was an SS commander and war criminal of Nazi Germany. In World War II, he served in the Waffen-SS.


maybe it is time for you to change your nickname.

#4469485 - 04/08/19 11:16 AM Re: Woman Advice Please [Re: Tom_Weiss]  
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Originally Posted by Tom_Weiss
Originally Posted by PanzerMeyer
I guess I must have "triggered" Tom! It's ok. Knowing his past political posting history on this site it doesn't surprise me.


and yes, I am what they call a Social Democrat, proudly so, Mr. "Panzermayer":


https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kurt_Meyer

Kurt Meyer (23 December 1910 – 23 December 1961) was an SS commander and war criminal of Nazi Germany. In World War II, he served in the Waffen-SS.


maybe it is time for you to change your nickname.



There was a member here with the name “joe Stalin”. You actually think he was a Communist?

Anyway, nice deflection attempt. If you want to post political topics we have the PWEC so keep your climate change junk out of community hall.


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#4469486 - 04/08/19 11:28 AM Re: Woman Advice Please [Re: FishTaco]  
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"Stalin" ? I don't know - probably yes, was there ever a "Joseph Mengele" here? he probably was a Nazi , I would not go around with a filthy nickname like that.

by the way, Panzemayer, what exactly is the reason why you choose that nickname? the guy was a War Criminal.

there are some Nazi Luftwaffe aces that served honorably in the new Luftwaffe after the war, those without war crimes to their record,

use a nickname like that and you still can get a nice "Teutonic" tang without the awful Nazi condiment to spoil the broth.

think about it.




#4469487 - 04/08/19 11:30 AM Re: Woman Advice Please [Re: FishTaco]  
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Ok that’s enough. All of you. And Tom_Weiss, you caused this.

Next ugly post gets a suspension.


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#4469490 - 04/08/19 11:58 AM Re: Woman Advice Please [Re: FishTaco]  
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#4469518 - 04/08/19 05:40 PM Re: Woman Advice Please [Re: FishTaco]  
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There you have it, women are able to cause drama and discord even when they're not directly involved!

#4469525 - 04/08/19 06:24 PM Re: Woman Advice Please [Re: FishTaco]  
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#4469530 - 04/08/19 07:06 PM Re: Woman Advice Please [Re: FishTaco]  
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FYI for the folks wondering about the word d@mn and its variants getting filtered.

D@mn, in and of itself has uses that are not offensive to very many people. Note, however, that SimHQs filter can not differentiate between that and it being combined with God, which was offensive to enough people to warrant putting it in the filter list. The filter is not sophisticated enough to provide a clever work-around.

Hopefully, everyone can continue to find ways to get their point(s) across in spite of it.

#4469535 - 04/08/19 08:44 PM Re: Woman Advice Please [Re: FishTaco]  
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Dam, What happened? biggrin

Good luck Taco.
Tom_W, sorry but I am now a former supporter. Not good Sir.

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#4469541 - 04/08/19 10:00 PM Re: Woman Advice Please [Re: Crane Hunter]  
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Originally Posted by Crane Hunter
Me, I'm just upset that it's the year 2019 and yet the Cherry 2000 isn't available yet, nor flying cars, WTF?


We can't even get the 1980's model of Melanie Griffith. The current model of her just isn't the same as it was back then.


The opinions of this poster are largely based on facts and portray a possible version of the actual events.

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#4469557 - 04/09/19 12:26 AM Re: Woman Advice Please [Re: FishTaco]  
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