I have 2 XB1 and 1 PS4, I spend 80% of my time on the XB1 and only use the PS4 when I'm in the mood for titles that are platform specific (Bloodborne, Driveclub) or where I played there first and the characters don't carry across (Destiny), or where friends I want to play with are on PS4 and not XB1.
Right now the two platforms pretty much do the same thing as far as I'm concerned, maybe with XB1 having the edge with backwards compatibility feature.