Been a while since I logged in here, so I thought I'd drop by to fill in those who are interested, the closure of my Divorce.

Let's recap:

Married almost 20 years, and the day after our anniversary she states she wants out. Three weeks later she has her own place. Two days before by birthday (and one week after moving out) she informs me she wants a full blown divorce. One week later she files. 24 hours after the filing, I am fully divorced (a benefit that she works at a courthouse and can have a judge sign the decree that quick).

Me at that time? Absolutely devestated. Crushed. Pain like I never felt before. I did not even have time to breath and here I was divorced.

Her at that time? Someone I did not know.

Her now? Now living with a new boyfriend (a co-worker of hers) who I can safely believe is the cause of the whole divorce.

Me now? F*ck the b*tch. :-) Stronger than ever, new friends, and I am now dabbling with getting to know females again.

For those who PM'd me (especially you Bill Grant) thanks! You folks made a difference.

I went to hell and back and realized a couple things -- Nothing is forever and life goes on.

For those folks lucky enough to have lived a life happily married with the same woman, you truly are something to behold.

For those who have been through a divorce, you know what I mean when I say "it's a hell of a road traveled, but once you find yourself, you realize that there are a ton of other roads to travel on..."

-Outlaw

Amen, brother....


Glad to hear you are back on your feet...

It's great to hear from you Outlaw and I'm happy to see that you are doing better considering the real hell you were put though.

Glad to hear that you are doing well and welcome back

Welcome back !

Good to hear you are on the mend!

Seeing how quick she has moved on, I think you are correct in that matter. At least she stabbed you face-to-face and got it over quick rather than being sly in the background and feeding you loads of BS.

Life does go on and your challenge now is how to best enjoy it! Good luck!

Welcome back!

Work out, get a tan, get your teeth whitened, a sharp haricut, get some nice trendy clothes..then accidentally bump into her somewhere. Tell her you are doing really, really good..but don't be specific. She'll stew over that one forever..

My marriage to my wife is so awesome right now. We are BFFs... on the same page... but we're busy with the kids stuff...

But its only been 10 years.

How can I ensure the next 10?? Or more importantly according to Outlaw, the next 20 after THAT? HOW CAN I BE SURE?? What about when the kids are all moved out? Will I be so much "Dad" and not enough "RicoSuave" to maintain that lady?

Is it the wrong woman, or the ravages of time? Surprised divorcees, did your marriage deteriorate, or did your eye wander away from the marriage and on to work/hobbies? Or does the woman fall apart as she hits the change, or did you really get Usurped by a Hugh Jackman look alike? As my chemicals change as I grow older, I become more and more unsure of how the mind, hormones, dreams, death, life, babies all are constant dice rolls...

I call my wife my soul mate and still do... but what if I don't have a soul...

The first weeks are indeed devastating, but the advantage is from being that down every road leads upwards.
Good to hear you are with the living again