A bassist is a bassist.
I remained a bassist for the last 20 years, and will be one till I die (I am not sure about being a bassist after life... we'll see).
I had at least 5 bands in the last decade, doesn't really care about them, I am more interested in people (i have a guitarist friend, played in various bands, always pulling each other).
So, never give up, never surrender.

Good bass players are hard to find.....do not worry mate something will turn up.

$hit happens man.

your group was going in a different direction than you - they want to practice all the time, or change their style, whatever.

don't think of them ditching you. they just let you know it was your train stop.

find another band and broaden the kind of music you play. it's all good experience in the end.

Hmmmm....regrettable but it clearly wasn't working anyways. Fate is a funny aul thing. If I were you, I'd swiftly embark upon a 6 month long drug fuelled Odyssey and then rock the world by creating a new form of bass playing loosely 'based' * upon the explosive, Polyrhythmic dynamic beatz of Tribal Patagonian Gnomes.

Don't follow trends, Colonel....set them. Without innovation there can be only stagnation.

The Kingdom of Bass is indeed Within you. Don't fight it. Feel it. Become that Behemoth of Bass that you always knew you were.





*see what I did there

I took that advice and went to Takeshi's Castle.. Damnit! (That's me at :41)



Good luck RSC..may all YOUR doors open!

I used to play a lot more than I do now. So... what do I do to keep it up? I play at church.

Lots of good stuff, a variety of types and styles. KT Tunstall one week, U2 the next, Switchfoot on occaison. Next week we're playing a Styx song.

Hehe Paul, I used to play at Church - classic guitar - when I was about 12 or 14.

Thanks all for your thoughts. I understand the concept of "constructive dismissal" but I think they haven't been telling me the truth for the last month or two. It's not like they are "going for gold" now or as I would have been the roadblock to that. I guess what bothers me most is that these people I was thinking off as friends, but friends need to be able and make compromises supporting or at least respecting each other's position...

Oh well, time to move on. Gonna pick up my stuff next weekend and that's that then.

Sorry to hear about the angst, RSColonel_131st. You'll recover and find something better, I am sure.

You and I tangled on the forums years ago, and I can't even remember what it was about. Number of rivets, flight models, or, more probably, some political BS. I've always felt bad about that, so I just want you to know that I wish you the best.

That's a bummer, RSColonel_131st. I know the "dumped" feeling you're talking about. I joined a band and was only with them a couple months. I wasn't really a good fit and was thinking of bailing anyway, but when the drummer called to let me know that we should "part ways" (I think that's what he said), I felt like I had just been dumped.

They ended up breaking up a few months later anyway. To be honest, they were about 3-4 years younger than me and thought they could "make it." They prioritized the band with that thought in mind. For me, it was just a fun hobby. It was right after I had graduated from college and had started working full time. They weren't even old enough to drink yet...

On the other hand, I was in a band in college with my roommates. We recorded a (crappy) demo, played parties and even at a couple bars/clubs. It was one of the most fun things I've ever done. We new it was just for fun and tried not to let being in a band get in the way of our friendship (but anyone who's seen VH1's "Behind the Music" knows that isn't possible ). In fact, the drummer and I are still writing and recording music together thanks to modern technology and the wonders of the internet...

What's my point? I don't really know... I guess I'm just saying I've been there and know how you feel. When you have time to play, look online or something for some people that want to have FUN and possibly play music in the process. Fun and playing with friends is what it's all about.

Jugs, I've not held that against you for years but I really appreciate the sentiment.

Malibu, your situation sounds similar, just that I've been there 36 months and now suddenly they decide to "go for it"?

I think part of what's happening is that the singer will have his first child in fall, and seems to now ditch all other hobbies besides the band (for he knows he won't be able to have time for more than one commitment). And suddenly that's expected from everyone else too.

At least I get some cash out of it, as they'll have to pay off the equipment we bought togehter.