Went out with a buddy of mine this weekend. We go back 30 years and he dragged me out with him as he said it was time...

A few observations;

A Hangover sucks waaaay more now.

After dropping a total of 40 pounds now (15 more to go) I am getting a *ton* of looks from girls. Oddly, it's the mid twenty crowd of females that are interested (I'm 43 btw).

My confindence is slowly starting to return.

The humor that landed me a woman for 20 years is still there and is slowly returning.

I have stayed away from all Alcohol (did not want something to depress me more) but found out this weekend, that it was not waranted. I was actually a "happy drunk". I'm not much of a drinker, but it was a little bit of a relief to know that when I do, I won't be the depressed guy....

and,

I get to love things about women again and not feel guilty! This is *huge* to me. I even walked up to a drop dead gorgeous woman and floored her with an opening line I have not used in 20 years. Damn did that feel good, and she would not take her eyes off me all night. Of course, I did not say another word to her before leaving.... ;-)

I'm still getting used to the empty house (still hurts like hell sometimes) and my life will never be the same (both emotionally, and financially) but ya know what? That might not be such a bad thing......

-Outlaw

Come on, you gotta mention what the line was

Excellent! Glad to hear that you're starting to get back into being comfortable in your own skin. I remember VERY well what that kind of a breakup can do to your confidence, and it's good to hear it's coming back so quickly.

Great AAR, a successful sortie, excellent!

next time close in for the kill!

Well done

Pics or it didn't happen!

Congrats on finding "yourself" again!

These forums need like buttons

Noticed same thing myself. For some reason many young women (certainly not all) go for that. They'll chat me up and even hit on me, and I didn't even have them on my radar...

Of course the one you've had your eye on for a bit, who's nice to you, ask her to coffee and then she tells ya "sorry have a BF"!!! ARgh!!

Ha! Nice work Outlaw..spill the line man..were all friends here

We need to know the line

Congrats on your night out, that's what I call progress!

I concur, we need to know!!

Great to read that kind of thing from you mate, sounds like it was a damned good night out!

Thanks guys....

Had to talk with the soon to be ex this morning.... still tough. But with more nights like Friday in the future, I think I'll be okay. It's just going to take some time. 20 years is a huge book to turn the page on.

Regarding the "line", I am 3 for 3 when using it. Used it on the girlfriend before the wife, used it on the wife, and used it Friday night as a test shot across the bow. It's not a fancy line, nor is it a "player move". It's just an observation of something some women do when out on the town. I just happen to notice it when most other men do not.... The secret is not the line, it is the position it puts them in. They *want* to talk to me as they are not sure if they heard it correctly. :-)

It's actually pretty funny. My buddy saw me approach the girl, lean into her ear and back away. He said her reaction was priceless as she looked like she could not put two words together after I walked away.

Awesome, good to ehar, you still will have bad days, but as time goes on they will be less frequent, and if you do hook up with a young lady, well that goes a long way too.



Bullet

cool, but do not overdo it. trust me as i am probably the most crazy and party-active-ladykilling person on these forums, it's easy to go overboard and wreck yourself

take a break next weekend and then go out again on the next friday or saturday.

mid 20's women like older guys, but don't waste a lot of money on them buying drinks and stuff. consider letting other guys buy drinks and then cutting in and taking your prize elsewhere.

one thing...don't talk about your recent relationship issues with women. it bothers them even if they don't say so. never admit you're weak or sensitive.

good luck and have fun dating again. be careful with your wallet and don't make drinking to relax a crutch.

(fyi one of my jobs is as host in japan, all my weekends are spent entertaining women in bars..i've seen people destroy themselves through excessive partying and alcohol)

Good to hear you had some no guilt fun for a change Outlaw!

Now... Tell us the friggin' line, and nobody has to get hurt! LOL

-Skater

...there's a line forming Outlaw..;)