I am back. Just before we went to Berlin, we bought a 550D
I will probably write some questions on SLR procedures in the next few days, but want to keep this thread on subject (choosing a DSLR) for others that will buy one.
The reasons for the 550 were:
The Canon EOS 500D is older, only has mono audio and video FPS is lower.
The Canon EOS 600D is more expensive for the swivel LCD + feature guide + different material. Nothing important *in my opinion*, so not worth it to me.
The Canon EOS 60D is larger, heavier, and as has been said in the thread, "overkill". It is faster in continuous shooting. But other operations like switching the camera on is "fast enough" on all these cameras, so probably the 60D speed advantage is noticable only seldom.
We bought these accessories:
* 2nd battery, a must-have as I already realised in the few days I am using it.
* In the shop I had to decide between a "carry in front of you" bag and a Rucksack. While it takes a bit of time to get the camera out of the Rucksack and ready to shoot, we liked it instantly and bought it. It is very nice, the compartments fit exactly the camera with either lens,
the other lens and all the "accessories" (caps, 2nd battery, handbook etc). Still it is small enough that when my girlfriend carries it, it looks like she wears the bag and not vice versa
If needed one can adjust the compartments using velcroed "walls".
* One UV filter for each lens. The shop guy recommended them warmly, partly as a protection for the lenses. As the lens diameters are different, we needed two.
* One SD card. I would guess their price is falling rapidly, when I need the 2nd one, I will buy it.
* A HDMI cable so I can connect to my computer monitor.
* He put some plastic on top of the LCD screen, similar to what I did on my PDA. 5 Euros, so probably worth it.
* A USB2 card reader. I wasn't sure at all I need one and don't think so now, but, again it was 5 Euros, so no biggie.
All in all, with a very cheap telelens, it was 1015 Euros. I went with the advice to get a lens to learn.
We didn't buy a tripod (we simply forgot :o ), so that's probably a purchase in the near future. There are very small and inexpensive ones.
Of course a drawback is you need a table or something to put it on. But if it can hold the EOS plus telelens, I will probably buy it. I can still buy a large one later.
For now, I need to reduce handshake.
I saw on the internet there are remote triggers for as little as 3 dollars, so I will probably buy one. Also I will probably buy an Android in the medium future and
if you buy one with the "USB host" feature, you can control your EOS with it. Also I guess a third option to avoid wobble due to pressing the trigger is the 2 second delay feature of the EOS.
To answer my own remaining questions from the first post:
Buying a Canon DSLR because I have a Canon point and shot is ok, but not that important, as there are many differences, not only due to it being a DSLR.
For example the "Q" button you need to change picture settings on the EOS. Still, knowing the terminology, icons and some concepts probably saves a few hours.
As video is important to me I might very well have chosen a Canon anyway.
As one use of the camera is to learn, I wanted a good and modern body (with many modern features).
For the same reason, I decided on two lenses and am happy, but already in the 3 days I used it there was a situation were I had the wrong lens mounted and was not fast enough in changing lenses to shoot a temporary situation.
TheBigDog was certainly correct when he said "you're about to embark on an exciting transition!"
Thanks again for all the suggestions. I will have a look at that Canon forum, looks like tons of info.