In trying 4GB, 8GB, and 16GB with my current system, I measured no significant difference in FPS in any game I looked at. Probably, going to 16 from 8 slowed things down a little bit as my timings went to 2T from 1T (as expected) -- but, I didn't notice a slow down either. Thus, I tend to recommend 4GB for a "cost effective" system. As others noted, memory is so cheap that its not dumb to buy more -- but one does not need more, apparently.
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