4). South African girls like for you to spare no pains or expense the first time out. If you want her interest to stick, roll out the red carpet. They appreciate the "larney" treatment. They like "executive" living and such.
So you're saying that a lot of SA girls are pretty shallow? Got it!
No, that's incorrect. Probably I'm explaining it wrong. It's a cultural thing that does not exist in this country, it's hard to put into words accurately, and if you don't understand the culture over there, it's hard to get at what I mean. These days in America, women want equality and all, and tend to be more easily accepting of less than chivalrous behavior on the part of men who happen to be courting them because, well, things just aren't that way here anymore.
It's more like, if you're taking a South African girl on a date, pretend you just passed through a time warp, and Eisenhower is president again. Something like that. You're going to want to invest some effort in this. Not just in money expended, in the whole deal, the ambience of the date. Open her door for her, all that sort of thing. Maybe bring her some flowers. If she seems a bit aloof at first, hang in there. If she did otherwise, it would be out of character and unacceptable in her native culture. It's no longer 2010 if you're taking a South African girl on a date. That culture exists at a point in time that is in our cultural past. Think "Old South", genteel society, almost formal courtship of a very gently bred woman. That doesn't mean you can't have fun on a date, just act with a certain degree of chivalry and decorum until you really get to know the girl. And don't be afraid to spoil her a bit. But don't worry, there will come a point where you can relax.
That having been said, take a look at even an
average South African woman. You might decide it's worth the effort. Mrs. Sauron used to model in South Africa, and I encountered her when she was a twenty-something girl and I was a horrible old forty-year-old cradle robber. Hopelessly lost in an instant was I, laddie!
Having been literally everywhere over the years, and I mean that (OK, Antarctica, no, but we're not talking penguins here), I don't believe I've ever been to a place where uncommon pulchritude was such a common virtue. Worth every drop of effort you can put into a date! Don't be all nervous, be yourself, but treat her well! And you do have an ace in the hole - you're American. Most South African women find American men sort of irresistibly charming for some reason I have yet to fathom.
Lastly, this information refers to a woman who is still living in South Africa, or has not been in America long enough to become acculturated. If she's used to us, they adapt very quickly. In that case, disregard and revert to SOP.
Cheers!
Rick...
Re: Semmern's Whoever Gets the Last Word Wins - Part 3
Too true.
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