Sorry crew, I gotta rant, only way to get this off my chest......

Decided today to pull the pin on my relationship with my Filipino partner. Why? I guess I can only post here and see if others would be as pi**ed as me;

I recently failed a final exam for air traffic controller training. Not one word of sympathy from her, even though she knew how much I wanted to do it.

I have flown to the Phil twice, called her three times a week, and have not received one return call, not even a card for my birthday.

Now she goes and put's in these 'conditions'

1. She will not get married to me unless I get a full time IT job in US/Canada.
2. She will not marry me if I don't buy a house in one of these places.
3. She wants me to pay her airfares and visa costs
4. She wants me to pay the kid's airfares and visa costs
5. She 'thinks' I should buy a car in the Phil for 'when we go back and visit'.
6. She will not give up her 'stable government job' to come to me unless I have a rock solid job.

Now, this girl lived in Australia for well over a year, and in my experience, work today is anything but stable (I been doing a lot of contract work) and out here at least, a lot of work (even HR, what she does) has gone contract.

She appears to be not willing to compromise on any of this.

Am I being too hard pulling the pin? Or am I a realist (Like I think I am)?

Andy.

Great, so your cousins who are not dating internationally have no problems.

The issue is with the high incidence of filipina women who date internationally in order to escape whatever problems they have at the expense of whoever falls for their tricks. And many of them are quite crafty.

Yes I am stereotyping but I did not label all filipinas as hussies. But if you're a western guy, with money, and you date a filipina woman, you're taking your chances moreso than if you were to date a girl from any other Asian country.

For what it's worth I've dated Koreans too and never had an issue with the "pay for my tickets and move me to Canada" thing. With filipina girls it's come up more than once.

Just sayin', that's all. It's kinda like the "americans are fat" stereotype. Not all Americans are fat but the stereotype exists for a reason.

there's a reason all those web cam whores are from the philipenes. they're all looking for a sugar daddy.

All this aside, since this is about FishTaco's problem and not the race issue, enough already and let's help the poor guy out.

Bones,

I did really love this girl, thing is now I'm simply not interested now, period. Her mum emailed me on a regular basis, so I just mailed her an apology to the entire family, they are all really nice people.

I had already planned a trip for us at Christmas, guess I'll be pulling the pin on that one. Might come stateside then to clear my head. In the meantime, I'll get stuck into my work.

Got no idea how I'm gonna get over not seeing my daughter though.

Andy.