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#2820030 - 07/16/09 04:25 PM
Re: Filipinos (rant)
[Re: Blade_RJ]
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FT, I'm sorry if we have slid this thread away from your original direction.
We're jerks.
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#2820048 - 07/16/09 04:41 PM
Re: Girls (rant)
[Re: Lone Star Ace]
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FishTaco, just read through this entire thread.
I agree with most here that you should ditch this woman but you should still be a Dad for your daughter. From the bottom of my heart, it is the right thing to do. She is the innocent party in this relationship so please do not just walk away from her but offer support how ever you can and are allowed to. I understand your frustrations and reason for splitting with this woman but you should not abandon your responsibility as a Father to this child.
Just the fact that you mentioned the baby and you can't stop thinking about her means that your love for her will never leave your heart no matter how terrible her mother is.
Just my 2 cents.
I thank God every day for my wonderful wife and 2 kids. They are my rock so I know how you feel about your daughter even though you don't have those feelings for her Mom.
Good luck Mate and I will pray for you in this trying time of your life.
-Mike I agree with you on this. His issue about his daughter is that she is halfway around the world. At least that is how I am reading it. I think it's important that his daughter know that he is the father, but at the same time, he will never be a part of his daughters life. That part really tugs at my heart strings. Until his daughter gets a little older and can make her own decision on if she keeps in contact, he is in an area that I don't think I could imagine dealing with. What's best for his daughter? That's the question he has to ask himself. I don't think there is any right answer.
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#2820054 - 07/16/09 04:51 PM
Re: Girls (rant)
[Re: 20mm]
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sixty-four,
I see you have no clue about this community or how it works. AJ was telling us what was going on in his life. He did that because he's been here for a long time and he has friends here that he trusts. Sometimes we disagree, sure, but that's part of being a friend. He didn't make an error by coming here IMO and he didn't in the relationship. Sometimes things go wrong and people take advantage of other people, even those close to them.
I've been here long enough to see people post about births, deaths, separations, life style changes, and so much more. And people here give them advice, support, consolation.
You don't like that, pick another forum. Different strokes for different folks, I guess. If I was facing a life-changing decision of this magnitude, I would discuss it face-to-face or over the phone with close family members and perhaps a very small number of trusted friends. I certainly wouldn't post about it on an Internet gaming forum. I understand the feeling of community that happens among Internet forum regulars but the level of anonymity and public nature of these forums make it an inappropriate place to air matters this personal. That's my view.
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#2820058 - 07/16/09 04:55 PM
Re: Girls (rant)
[Re: sixty-four]
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Most of us have been friends for a long time, sixty-four, so if we feel comfortable enough to talk to each other about what's going on in our lives, so much the better. We have plenty of forums to help you get information about the sims you enjoy.
pfunk
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#2820068 - 07/16/09 05:02 PM
Re: Girls (rant)
[Re: sixty-four]
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I am sure he already has discussed it with family members and close friends. He stated that that is what is keeping him sane.
Sixty-four, I have shared personal stuff about myself. I have posted here that I am diabetic and I need to use Viagra. I am not embarassed about it. I posted it so others who need to do the same thing for various other reasons know that they aren't alone in their situation. You shouldn't be critical and judgemental of someone else unless you are sure of their motives. You do have a right to feel how you do. But to smack someone when they are down isn't a very classy thing to do.
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#2820077 - 07/16/09 05:08 PM
Re: Girls (rant)
[Re: sixty-four]
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sixty-four,
I see you have no clue about this community or how it works. AJ was telling us what was going on in his life. He did that because he's been here for a long time and he has friends here that he trusts. Sometimes we disagree, sure, but that's part of being a friend. He didn't make an error by coming here IMO and he didn't in the relationship. Sometimes things go wrong and people take advantage of other people, even those close to them.
I've been here long enough to see people post about births, deaths, separations, life style changes, and so much more. And people here give them advice, support, consolation.
You don't like that, pick another forum. Different strokes for different folks, I guess. If I was facing a life-changing decision of this magnitude, I would discuss it face-to-face or over the phone with close family members and perhaps a very small number of trusted friends. I certainly wouldn't post about it on an Internet gaming forum. I understand the feeling of community that happens among Internet forum regulars but the level of anonymity and public nature of these forums make it an inappropriate place to air matters this personal. That's my view. Did anyone ask for your view on the man's personal issues? Your view isn't the view of our friend FT and many others here. Not classy on your part posting rude comments and then defending them. Again, probably your views...
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#2820147 - 07/16/09 06:40 PM
Re: Girls (rant)
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64, remember that many of us have already met in person, so it's not like we only know each other from the forum.
Some of us have exchanged equipment worth close to $2,000 with each other so they could try it out.
Job offers have been extended to members.
Many of us have sold things to each other.
We share vacation stories and pictures.
and that is just the short list.
Don't mean to pile on here. Just wanted you to know that a lot of us have more than a passing interest in each other.
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#2820186 - 07/16/09 07:47 PM
Re: Girls (rant)
[Re: PFunk]
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I suggest we start a seperate thread on this get together; Pfunk or Bill Grant would be a good choice to open it since it is their map sheet. Fishtaco started this with a particular problem and we should try and keep it more on track for him.
FT, we really do care about your problem. If this get together happens, we would love to see you there. I'm sure we would all help you drown the issue for a while.
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#2820191 - 07/16/09 07:52 PM
Re: Girls (rant)
[Re: oldgrognard]
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64, remember that many of us have already met in person, so it's not like we only know each other from the forum.
Some of us have exchanged equipment worth close to $2,000 with each other so they could try it out.
Job offers have been extended to members.
Many of us have sold things to each other.
We share vacation stories and pictures.
and that is just the short list.
Don't mean to pile on here. Just wanted you to know that a lot of us have more than a passing interest in each other. Gotcha
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